More on weddings

Since I'm still in a funk, I guess its best to write on other things than the mess thats on my mind. Thinking happy thoughts! :-)

S&R's wedding was sweet, they both looked lovely and the church service was pretty special. It was at my dad's church, also the church where my parents were married. The sermon was really nice but I can't remember the pastor who delivered it except that he was a youngish chap. He was funny and spoke in a youth lingo to a crowd full of pastors, which made it even more hilarious.

He began with a joke, which I surprisingly can still remember. A couple was really nervous on their wedding day and so the pastor had a word with them, "Calm down and focus on these 3 things. First focus on walking down the aisle. Then look up ahead at the altar. And finally, look at each other, look at him, look at her." And so the bride at the entrance repeated softly under her breath, "Aisle, Altar, Him". Over at the Altar, the groom went, "Aisle, Altar, Her." Needless to say the mothers-in-law on both sides had to be restrained. Funny?

In the middle of his sermon, he made S&R stand up and hold a piece of rope between them. He made them stand really close to each other and told them, "Right now, you must feel a lot love for each other but naturally problems will arise and you will become distant to each other," as he made them move further away from each other. "Then you'll have your girlfriends wagging fingers and telling you, make sure you teach that fellow a lesson, only then will he learn. And on the other end, the most henpecked husband will be preaching to you, listen macha, you must show her who is the man of the house." And again he made them move further away from each other until the rope became taut and made them take turns at pulling it. "As you both try to pull each other to your side, as you refuse to compromise, the problem will persist and may even lead to one or both of you falling or letting go of your end of the rope." Then he lifted the middle piece of rope high and naturally the both of them were pulled back to the middle and he said, "But if you take it up to Him, you'll find your way back to each other again." A tad preachy and sickeningly sweet but so true!

But of course I had to live up to my devilish side and so I didn't restrain a very naughty Jembalang from taking self-portraits of the 3 hantu's right there in church mid-service! And I can't expect not to have been recognised either since my dad's sister was sitting 2 pews away. Heheheh!

H&H's wedding was cool too. The drive up and down Ipoh was pleasant since I got to snooze at the back while the manly-men did all the small talk. And of course the bride was gorgeous in kebaya and the groom looked so smart with his royal songkok (cant remember the correct term) and keris! I even did the whole blessing thing at the bersanding ceremony, although its usually performed by married couples, if I'm not mistaken... hehehe... It was an afternoon do but it was so breezy I actually felt cold in my heavy saree. Then a weekend later we went for the Indian style reception in KL where I finally got my laddu. :-D Seriously, wedding laddu's are the bomb compared to store-bought ones.

Next is Pontianak's wedding and I'm ashamed to say that when we were at the printers making the changes for her wedding invitation card, I kinda hijacked the process. But its was just small changes ok! She has a really nice idea for her theme and after they've been printed and mailed out I'll blackmail her into posting the design on her blog. But seriously, apart from the logistical issues of putting a wedding together, the emotional and psychological toll is really no joke at all (We're here for you babe!). And of course in a couple of weekends its hunting season for Ling's gown pulak - that should be fun as long as Ms. Dee doesn't ffk last minute for work.

So in the spirit of wedding season, here again is another saccharine sweet story I got in an email, this time about wedding rings:
Why should the wedding ring be worn on the fourth finger?
There is a beautiful and convincing explanation...

The Thumb represents your parents.
The Second (Index) finger represents your siblings.
The Middle finger represents Yourself (in polite society :-p).
The Fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner.
The Last (Little) finger represents your children.

Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together - back to back. Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb - tip to tip, as shown below:

Now, try to separate your thumbs (representing the parents). They will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong, and have to leave you sooner or later.

Join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings). They will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives.

Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children). They will open too, because children will leave the nest and settle down on their own some day.

Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse). You will be surprised to find out that you simply CANNOT, because Husband & Wife have to remain together all their lives - through thick and thin!

Of course, just because they HAVE to doesn't mean they WILL, but its still an interesting theory innit? :-)